Can Marriage Counseling Save My Marriage?

A marriage is a union between two people that is built on love, trust and understanding. Unlike what the fairytale tells you, a marriage is not always a picture of pure happiness, and can and will be challenging at times, on both sides.

Think of a marriage like a garden - roses will not always grow in it, sometimes there will be unwanted plants or weeds popping up, sometimes there will be unexpected problems like floods or droughts which will require extra effort and attention to sort out. You need to put in time and effort if you want to maintain your garden year in, year out. Your marriage is no different, and will require time and effort also to keep it at its optimum, something that often gets forgotten as the stresses of daily life get in the way. It is normal to have ups and downs in any relationship, but it is important to recognise and address these issues, adapt and move on. Understanding on both sides is vital, and sometimes it helps to have a third person, who is neutral, to see both sides of the story.

Grove Counselling is located in the Melbourne suburb of Windsor, and we offer marriage counselling services Online or In Person, so we can meet with you face-to-face no matter where you are wether you are seeking relationship counselling in Prahran, Windsor or across Melbourne. Most of us rely on our partner to share and repair our ups and downs, but this is not always possible, especially when life's challenges begin to affect our relationship. Sometimes, instead of feeling loved and connected to your partner, stresses and strains in a relationship can create a feeling of distance and distress, like a ship that's lost its anchor and is drifting uncontrollably out to sea, the way back can seem impossible to achieve.

We work with couples to help them reconnect, so they can reestablish that loving bond that keeps them anchored together. So to answer the question "can marriage counselling save my marriage?" the answer is no. Only you and your spouse can save your marriage. But seeking couples therapy is one of, if not the best way to help you build a better and stronger marriage. If you had problems in your garden, you would ask a gardener for advice but you would still expect to do the digging. We can help guide you back to a loving and harmonious relationship, but you will both still have to put the effort in.

Should You Try To Save A Broken Marriage?

Remember when you first met your spouse? That heart-fluttery excitement of seeing them again? Before life got in the way, or maybe it was children, or maybe it was work... Seeking out therapy can help you decide if a broken marriage really is worth saving, because unfortunately sometimes we don't actually read the signs very clearly when emotion and upset are at the forefront of our minds.

If your spouse is abusive: physically, emotionally, verbally, sexually or psychologically, or you feel unsafe in any way around them, then speaking to one of our therapists will help you make the right decisions. Abuse in any form should not be tolerated, and it can help to have someone else on your side to give you the strength and confidence you need to move on.

Maybe you cannot move on from an affair either you or your spouse had, or you seem to have fallen out of love with your partner, talking to a marriage counsellor can help you trust the decision you make regarding saving the relationship, so you can live the rest of your life without regret.

There are many other reasons couples seek advice about their marriage, and also reasons they don't - maybe you feel your problems are way too big to begin trying to solve them now, or perhaps you think your problems are too insignificant for relationship counselling. Whatever the reasons, it always helps to talk. And if you don't try you may live with regrets that can cause you anxiety in the future.

The First Step To Repairing A Broken Marriage

If you aren't living the best life you can with your partner, then you should definitely consider marriage guidance counselling. Whether it's communication problems you are having, blended family issues, emotional or physical disconnection with each other, or a lack of trust, once you and your partner accept there IS a problem to fix you are halfway to repairing it.

Finding the right therapist in the right place at the right time for both of you can be a challenge, that's why the flexibility of our online counselling sessions in Australia makes them so popular today. If you are a new client call us for a FREE 20-minute online video consult and find out how our relationship therapist in Melbourne can help you and your marriage today.